Daily Grind

Early mornings, crazy commutes, long work hours, overtime, more commutes, rush hour, and it repeats the following day. Everyday is a grind. Corporate employees know it, college students know it, grad students know it, entrepreneurs know it. For me, i knew it through a semester in law school. It was the closest I came to the "ayoko na, tama na" kind of grind. This is a story of a really bad day in law school, September 20, 2017.

2-4 PM: Persons class with Prof. Aguiling-Pangalangan. She is known to many as Ma'am Beth. Ma'am Beth was motherly as a professor.... if your recitation was good. Otherwise, good luck. Thankfully, I didn't get called that day.

4-9 PM: Study Consti at the Law Lib until closing time. We usually take siomai and palabok breaks at the kiosk right beside the college.

9:00-9:30 PM: Dinner at Jollibee Katipunan. This explains the weight fluctations. Kiosk food for lunch and fast food for dinner.

9:30 PM-1:30 AM: Starbucks Katipunan for more Consti.

1:30-6 AM: Starbucks closes at around 1:30 in the morning, so on bad days some of us would stay at Shakey's, which is open 24 hours. This way, anyone who falls asleep has a reliable wake up call.

6-7 AM: Just 2 more cases to go, we decide to go back to freshen up and grab a fresh change of clothes. My blockmate Kent and I headed over to my place at Berkeley. We took turns taking showers and napping while the other was showering. 

7-8:30 AM: Back to school to finish the last few notes for Consti.

8:30-9 AM: At this point, everyone is cramming anything useful into his or her handwritten notes. It's panic mode. The room becomes this scene of intense highlighting, non-stop swearing, periodic time-checking, heavy breathing, and extreme anxiety. Sometimes a blockmate would enter the room and there's a heavy sigh of relief from the entire class, "akala ko si sir," someone exclaims. Five minutes before 9, "Guys, silent phones," our blockmate would remind the class.

9 AM: The door opens wide open, Professor Gatmaytan enters. The loud sound of wooden chairs being dragged across the tiles as the class stands up aggravates the tension in the room. I get really anxious just thinking about it today. 

The block in Shakey's at 2 AM
Shakey's at 6 AM. 2 more cases to go.

Not all days were this bad, but neither is this an exaggeration. I do remember one really bad recitation though. It was a Legal Methods class. After my recitation, the professor asks me, "So, what grade are you going to give me for reciting the case for you?" I swallow and stare at down at my table for what was the longest 10 seconds of my life. 

This is why I have so much respect for everyone still in law school. They know what the grind is and what it takes to live it. And although I have decided to leave law school, the lesson stuck with me: There are 24 hours in a day and when each hour is used wisely, one day could get you so far ahead. This is what the grind is about. It's believing in the potential of a single day, of a single hour. It's about understanding that time adds up. The days add up to months, and months add up to years, and years add up to either something mediocre and half-assed or something of great value. 

This is a handful on hustle, grit, and the daily grind.

1. Triple H and Floyd Mayweather Jr., a pre-fight conversation

Personally, I'm not a huge fan of Mayweather's make-all-the-money-in-world attitude, but his work ethic is insane and I admire him for that. He's a winner. You may not like how he wins, but he knows the ins and outs of the game and knows how to use it to his advantage. "One of the things that amazes me all the time about Floyd is that he works and trains like he's never made a dime in boxing. It's incredible to see a man who has made a couple of hundred million dollars in this business pushing himself the way he does. He's a perfectionist," said Leonard Ellerbe, CEO of Mayweather Promotions.

Next to him in this photo is Paul Levesque. Many of us know him as Triple H, professional wrestler and executive in the WWE. This is a story about his visit to Mayweather's locker room before a huge fight with Marquez. It's something I read once and could not get out of my head.

Floyd Mayweather Jr. and Paul Levesque (Triple H). Photo taken from Bleacher Report.

“I’m friends with Floyd Mayweather, and I was walking him to the ring one time, I think when he fought Marquez. I wanted to watch some of the undercard, and we got there early. Then his guys came and got me and said, ‘Floyd just wanted to say hi before he starts getting ready, chat with you for a few minutes.’ So Steph—my wife—and I went backstage, we get in his locker room, and he’s lying down on the couch watching a basketball game. He said, ‘Hi, have a seat.’ We’re talking a little bit, but I’m trying to be ultra-respectful of him. He’s about to go into this massive fight.

 

“The second there’s a lull in the conversation, I say, ‘All right, man. We’re gonna get outta your hair and head back, and we’ll come back here when it’s time for us to get ready for your deal.’ And he’s like, ‘Man, you don’t gotta take off. You can sit down. I’m enjoying the conversation.’ He’s completely relaxed.

 

“So at another lull in the conversation, I say, ‘We’re gonna run, Floyd. I don’t wanna be in your way,’ and he says, ‘Hunter, I’m telling you: I’m just chilling, watching the game.’ I said, ‘You’re not wound up about this at all?’ and he goes, ‘Why would I be wound up? I’m either ready or I’m not. Worrying about it right now ain’t gonna change a damn thing. Right? Whatever’s gonna happen is gonna happen. I’ve either done everything I can to be ready for this, or I haven’t.’"

This reminds me of a lecture by Prof. Liberatore of the Ateneo Theology department about graduation. He was talking about how graduation isn't a one-day event. It happens everyday. Everyday, we worked towards the ceremony, but it's a process. By the end of the year, we've already done all the work, all the "graduating," and all we have to do in the end is to climb up the stage, shake Fr Jett's hand, smile, and bow.

The same goes for all kinds of work. Do the work everyday and when the time comes to perform, fight, or deliver, all we have to do is show up.

2. The Pursuit of Happyness (2006)

It was right then that I started thinking about Thomas Jefferson on the Declaration of Independence and the part about our right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. And I remember thinking how did he know to put the pursuit part in there? That maybe happiness is something that we can only pursue and maybe we can actually never have it. No matter what.

How did he know that?

This is the story of Chris Gardner who's played by Will Smith, while Jaden plays little Christopher. It's a story of struggle, hustle, and the daily grind in its truest sense. If you haven't seen the film yet, go watch it now. Stream it, download it, ask a friend who has a copy, and go watch it, or save it for a really bad day. I don't remember how many times I've seen this with family, friends, or on my own, but it's never failed to get to me.

I've always thought the movie was a great reminder for me to get to work. Many times, motivation is rather loud and harsh. It usually forces itself on us. But this kind of motivation is gentle and grows on you, but it hits you just as hard, right to your face. And for me, watching it from start to finish has always left me humbled and suddenly all my excuses fly out the window. 

Chris Gardner: Hey. Don't ever let somebody tell you... You can't do something. Not even me. All right?

Christopher: All right.

Chris Gardner: You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it. Period

3. Grit: The power of passion and perseverance, a TED Talk by Angela Duckworth

The art of being gritty lies in seeing every failure as an opportunity for growth. While in the middle of the everyday toil of work and deadlines, it is easy to perceive setbacks as the negative of progress. But in truth, they are mere necessary pauses in progress that speed up growth in the long term. This is a talk by Angela Duckworth, psychologist and author of the New York Times Bestseller Grit

Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years, and working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it's a marathon, not a sprint.

4. "I'm really good at suffering." - Amelia Boone

Photo of Amelia Boone from The Foundry Chicago.

“I’m not the strongest. I’m not the fastest. But I’m really good at suffering." - Amelia Boone

If you ask her what she does for a living, she couldn't answer you right away. For one, she does obstacle course racing. Here are just some of her awards over the years: She's a 4-time finisher of the Death Race (it's slogan is "You May Live"), the only three-time winner of the World’s Toughest Mudder, which she won 2nd overall in 2012, falling short by only 8 minutes to a male racer. She has collected over 30 championships and over 50 podium finishes all while undergoing surgery in 2014 and a femur fracture in 2017. (There are too many to mention. View the full list on her website by clicking here.)

Oh, and she's also a full-time corporate lawyer for Apple.

How does she do it? The trick is to embrace the pain. She welcomes the grind everyday like the sunrise and sunset, and most times, she would look out for the least ideal conditions to train in to prepare herself for the worst. Thunderstorms, for instance, are perfect conditions for a run. One time, she ran along the Chicago Lakefront trail because the waves were so hard that they were coming onto shore. The police had to step in to stop her. You may listen to her full interview with Tim Ferriss by clicking here.

5. The Most Important Word Ever - Gary Vaynerchuk

I make sure to take everything GaryVee says with a grain of salt. He makes it all sound easy. But I have to hand it to him, he walks his talk. For those who aren't familiar with him, he's a vlogger, entrepreneur, author, and marketer. He saw the rise and potential of the Internet before most people did and invested in it early. He has new stuff everyday, you can check him out here. This video below specifically talks about the grind. Warning: a lot of swearing. 

"Hustle is waking up one day, the day before you die, and realizing you have given it your all."

I think the secret to making it look easy is to do what you love. Now, there are opposing views on this. Some say you have to do what you love, while others maintain that you have to learn to love what you do, which is more flexible. But there's always the possibility of attempting to do what you love but if the opportunity doesn't arise, then it might be time to learn to love what we do for the meantime.

There's a lot of courage and sacrifice involved in the grind and it's something we all have to face everyday. Some hate it, others are numb to it, but only a few actually love it. But I think as soon as we learn to embrace it, we will as well. 

 

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The photo used on the cover image was taken by: Marvin Ronsdorf

Thanks!

Kevinn